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It's a learning curve

The song 'learning curve'  by Lily Williams has just made its way to my ears and I haven't been able to stop listening. She has dedicated the song to her husband. The song is sung very soulfully. Lily has a delicate voice which makes all the difference to the song.


If I have to explain my exact reaction when I first heard the song; it's love at first instance. 'learning curve' creates a calm and peaceful ambience for anyone listening to it. It's not just the vocals by Lily but also the profound message that she's highlighting by employing her storytelling ability that really stands out for me. It's like a pat on the back or a simple touch that means alot.



The song paints two important portraits about life and love. One of the colours from this protrait that had an impact on me was the underestimated fact that we all are EVOLVING human beings, and hence we are going to change and evolve every moment. For some change comes fast, for some it's slow. These changes are scary, suprising and difficult to expect especially when it's a change that happens in other's. Whether it's good or bad really depends on the interpretation of the individual.


Some times this fact isn't acknowledged and we keep questioning others about their change, that could lead to them deciding to withdraw; making things worse. This in turn lead me to the second colour Lily has emphasized in this potrait; the most important realisation about love. This realisation is that love is not a feeling, it's a choice and we are infact choosing to love so many people in our life everday even when it hurts, even when it's hard. This may be easier to understand if we look at relationships such as those with parents, siblings, children, friends, romantic partners. We are so often choosing to stay and love them while it feels tiring to do so. This is a powerful and scary realisation at the same time. When you realise that someone who you love and who loved you and accepted you for who you are could find all the reasons to not choose you anymore.


Now putting these two colours together I realised how our change is a factor in people making their choice. And this reality is the scariest I have been acquitted with for it implies that as we change we may fall out of love with people more precisely choose or realise that we don't want to try on the said relationship. As Lily sings you never can predict for sure if "If we grow parallel or separately" it's a learning curve. It's along this journey only that we shall realise the work and open mindset it takes to make any relationship work, for anyone with a rigid mindset who thinks changing is not normal will make their own situation difficult.


                                                           

 -Alloysha Dias

                                      



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